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Series of Good News


gimme 5, Mommy!

should i call these.. good news?

1. my 5-month attachment at KL started next Monday. yeay!
it's not about going to KL (with Hafiy, Adik & Bibik) and leaving Abiy alone here, but as a makan gaji (at least to me) it is important to have career progression. at least doing something i'm interested in, rather that goes to work just because I HAVE to. at least i can be happily working lah!

tp ini agak hectic juga sebab br dpt confirmation early this week. barang satu hapah pun tak kemas lagi. our flight will be on Saturday afternoon, and belah paginya kene pegi cucuk JE Hafiy 2nd dose & check up Adik sambil collect surat utk check up kat KL beserta kad merah.

2. Mami dapat idea utk stok2 susu itu!
pening jugak Mami pikirkan apa nak buat dengan stok2 susu yg banyak itu (sila jeles ye ibu2 :P). akhirnya sesiteri & bos2 telah menjamin bahawa the 5 months attachment wont be a solid 5 months, every 2-3 weeks akan balik Miri, so stok2 itu akan terus di sini, digunakan bila kita balik Miri kelak. yahuuu!

dan pembelian deep freezer utk stok baru di KL bakal diteruskan sebab peti ais kat umah Tok Pa, masya-Allah dah fully occupied!

3. pam baru Mami dah sampai!
disebabkan demand makin bertambah dan bakal bertambah, Mami telah mengorder sebuah double pam. dan sekarang dia dah sampai!!! tapi Mami tak poskan ke sini sbb takut tak sempat sampai. so skg beliau ada di KL. oh sungguh tidak sabar!

dan benda yg paling menghappykan Mami hari ni sampai tersengih2 hingga ke telinga:-

4. our GM approve for 'Mother's Room!'
oh Mami sungguh tak sangka beliau adalah seorang yg pro-BF. in fact, all his 5 kids were breastfed! and ada yang sampai3 tahun lebih! Mami ingat akan jadi isu juga bila Mami nak mintak bilik for Mother's Room. tapi ceritanya begini...

bertempat di bilik tamu, dalam office GM, jam 5.45pm

Mami : encik B, skg kan kat ofis kita ramai mothers... (sambil amik proposal dalam file)
encik B hensem* : oh, ni ke proposalnya? let me see. (i didnt ever tell him about it)
Mami : (handing the proposal to him).
encik B hensem* : good2. i really support BF. in fact i believe all mothers should BF. all my kids pun BF. my wife & i a bit orthodox. we believe in BF & dont rely on susu lembu ni (:D)
(dan seterusnya sehingga..)
encik B hensem* : do you mind using my pantry? i pun tak pakai. kat situ ada peti, sinki segala.
Mami : boleh boleh! but i oredy draft a plan for our pantry aje.
encik B hensem* : why dont you use *****nita's room?
Mami : takde fridge & sinki la encik B.
encik B hensem* : takpe... i bole belikan.
(finally...)
encik B hensem* : tell all your friends, GM dah approve!
*sekalisekala bodek boss :P

YAHOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

alhamdulillah.
i never expect he's a pro-BF ones. i met my dept head before, he was a bit sceptical la pasal expressing milk at work. byk soal.. but the GM takde soalan cuma full support!!!
Mami kagum jugak sikit2 dengan dia. he's a GM yet very humble. his wife still is working, and pakai Honda City je. oh OK, maybe our GM's paycheck is not as huge as other company's GM :)
saya sangat sukaaa!!!!




Bad Mommy Day



lately Mami dah kurang bagi perhatian pada Hafiy. sedihnya.. (hehehe) even weekend pun Mami spend time tidooo sepanjang hari, especially hari2 Mami berpuasa memang tak larat sangat. sampai Abi komen Hafiy asyik dengan Bibik aje. mandi dengan Bibik, makan dengan Bibik, main dengan Bibik.... oh Mami sangat2 tidak larat. sorry yer sayang...

bila main dengan Bibik, Bibik kata Hafiy suka jerit2 marah kalo Bibik usik barang Hafiy, buat2 nak makan makanan Hafiy... oh Hafiy dah makan banyak sekarang. hari2 makan nasik dah. kadang2 Mami masak spageti untuk Hafiy. Hafiy sangat suka! Bibik la excited nak menggemukkan Hafiy. maklumlah berat tak naik-naik. tp Mami tak kisah je, asalkan sihat dan ceria sudah.

disebabkan Mami tak larat nak melayan dan hari2 terjelepok je, tak dapat lah nak bersama2 'menyambung sel otak' Hafiy. sambil BF pun Mami tido, tak larat sesangat. tp untuk terus menggalakkan Hafiy terus suka buku (Bibik kata Hafiy kalau main mainan, cepat je boring. kalau pegang buku baru lama sikit belek2), Mami lambakkan buku kat atas katil. pagi2 Hafiy bangun, boleh pegi belek buku. untuk mengelakkan buku itu dikoyak dan menjadi chewing gum, Mami bagi buku jenis yang wipe off tu. keras tapi tak macam board book. kira OKlah Hafiy tak boleh koyak2 dan chew. buku2 kertas lembut semua dah jadi mangsa koyakan dan kunyahan yang rakus.

sekarang ni Hafiy dalam 'mode memusnahkan barang'. semua barang2 yang Mami/Bibik susun, satu-satu Hafiy sepah dan selerakkan. objek paling digemari ialah kotak bekas supplement Mami. punyelah struggle panjat kerusi nak capai.kalau time Mami OK, Mami layan Hafiy, masukkan semula, macamana nak susun, letak balik kat tempat asal. kalau time Mami penat, Mami biar je Hafiy tarik, jatuhkan & keluarkan semua isi kotak. selerakkan & jadikan botol2 tu sebagai rattle. layan~

tapi penat2 pun kadang2 Mami kena jugak gagahkan, cari Hafiy kalau tiba2 hilang dari pandangan. kadang2 Hafiy pegi main kat stoller & hi chair, main2 roda. suka sangat dengan roda. OK la kalau Hafiy main kat situ sebab Mami bole nampak. tapi kekadang Hafiy merangkak pegi dapur main dengan hos mesin basuh, kuali2, botol2 minyak tu. aduuh, nak tak nak, pening2 pun kene jugak bangun pegi amik Hafiy. bahaya main kat dapur, kot lah ada apa2 yang Mami tak perasan. nanti Abiy kena install gate kat pintu dapur karang ni.

Adik pun agak terabai jugak sekarang. Mami kurang bercakap, dan membaca dengan Adik. oh Mami sangat tidak laraaaat. kat ofis pun kalau turun-naik (even pakai lif), termengah2 jugak Mami dibuatnya (macamana nak hidup kat KL nanti?). minggu ni kita pegi check up Adik & ambik kad merah dia. Mami tengah fikir lagi nak check up kat mana bila kat KL nanti... Damansara Damai Medical Centre atau Prince Court Medical Centre? DDMC macam best sebab dekat rumah Tok Pa, time weekend bole pegi. PMC pulak dekat ofis Mami nanti & hospital tu macam canggih je. hehe. oh yang mana satu...pilihan kalbu~

Mami harap sickness ni cepatlah berakhir. Mami nak layan Hafiy dan Adik. kita boleh main2, baca buku & bercerita. sekarang Mami nak cakap2 pun tak larat. nak senyum pun tak larat! hahaha. cemana pun alhamdulillah sebab Mami selera makan (masakan sendiri sahaja). & tiba2 Mami boleh makan mangga muda yang masam tu. biasanya tak mampu nak telan kalau tak celup gula banyak2.




When East Meet West

i'm not a book worm. in our shelves, i only have 2 rows of books, while Abiy conquers all, plus the files and barang2 tidak berkaitan dengan buku. but since i found out my budget always burst to the supermarkets' owners, i think i should put some portion into MPH, Popular, Kino or any bookstore owner sometimes. i'm not a smart one so i think i have to read a lot. (sungguh teruk!) all this while i seldomly read books and i hate reading novels. Malays novels are boring, and English novels are too complicated to be understood! (blame my C4 English :P)



i bought this book last week. i recommend that EVERY mom-to-be or mom who want to BF, should have any book about complete guide of breastfeeding or babies. OK you might say that baby caring, breastfeeding are common sense. but, if you don't have any idea about rule of breastfeeding, what will you do when your milk doesn't come out after 1 day of delivery? give your baby FM because you think she's hungry? and if you don't have any idea for why baby cries, will you feed her everytime she cries because you think she's hungry?

in fact, no harm spending money on books. we'll get tax rebate after all.

the best part i like most in this book is the FAQ. i would like to share:

Q: i hear so many stories about women who really wanted to nurse their babies but had to switch to bottle because they didn't have enough milk or they couldn't nurse for some other reasons. how can i be sure this won't happen to me?
A: every healthy woman who has ever had a baby has had milk come into her breasts, and nearly all women can breastfeed when the receive ENCOURAGEMENT, INFORMATION and SUPPORT. the first 2 weeks are crucial. it's important to build your support network and reach out for HELP.

translation ikut suka hati Mami-
S: saya dengar banyak cerita pasal ibu2 yang nak sangat BF tapi kene bagi botol jugak sebab tak cukup susu atau tak bole BF kerana sebab2 lain. macamana nak pastikan ini tak terjadi pada saya?
J: setiap ibu yang sihat yang pernah melahirkan akan mempunyai susu. dan hampir semua ibu bole BF apabila mereka mendapat GALAKAN, MAKLUMAT dan SOKONGAN. 2 minggu pertama adalah time2 yang amat genting. amatlah penting untuk membina jaringan sokongan dan orang yang bole tolong kita bila2 perlu.

Q: my mother didn't have enough milk to nurse me. will i take after her?
A: probably your mom DIDN'T GET enough ENCOURAGEMENT or INFORMATION. the ability to breastfeed is NOT INHERITED, nor it is INSTINCTUAL. women NEED to LEARN how to breastfeed. almost all cases of insufficient milk supply are due to mismanagement of one sort or another and to LACK of encouragement from doctors, hospitals, FAMILY & FRIENDS.

translation ikut suka hati Mami-
S: mak saya tak cukup susu utk BF saya. adakah saya pun nanti macam dia?
J: mungkin mak anda TAK DAPAT GALAKAN dan MAKLUMAT secukupnya. keupayaan untuk BF tidak diwarisi dari mak dan ia tidak semulajadi mencurah2 macam air terjun. seorang wanita PERLU BELAJAR untuk BF. hampir semua kes susu tak cukup ialah sebab tersalah arah kat mana2 atau TAK CUKUP GALAKAN daripada doktor, hospital, keluarga dan kawan2.
***ini writer ni yg cakap tau bukan saya yang cakap... kalau tak betul pegi komplen kat dia.

ok, that's from West and i see Westerns are really2 encourage BFing. even they go for tandem nursing and nurse for more than 2 years. while in our region those things are taboos.

i read several Islamic books about babycare, breastfeeding, but those things mentioned in general. too general. or maybe i didn't find the right book. English books, most of them are compacts, and comprises all topics, in details. hmmm this might explain why most mommies 'assume' that BFing is as easy as eating peanut, cos when reading books like Amalan Ketika Mengandung, it mentions about the importance of BFing but doesn't teach on how to BF.


i remember my naqibah then said, "we are lots and lots more fortunate than the non-Muslims. we have Allah, Who will always fulfill our doa. we just have to say our prayer to Him and He'll do the rest. but they don't have it. they just do it without berkah dan rahmat". but why we face lots of troubles and failures while they are happy BFing their babies?




Garang

Abiy : apsal Hafiy garang sangat? Abiy tak penah pun tunjuk garang kat rumah. in fact, mana ada orang suka marah2 kat rumah kita pun.
Mommy : it's in his blood... (dasar anak Jawa!)

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Bibik : Bibik tak pernah tengok Hafiy senyum. muka serius aje. kalau baby lain macam kiut2 je senyum bila kita agah.

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Aunty2 & Uncle2 : anak kau ni muka pandang orang slek je. macam cakap "kau apehal?". tak macam baby lah!


apehal?



ofis ke penjara ni. senyap ajo. ~nakwat camno datang time weekend.

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cerita Bibik:
"Hafiy selalu marah Bibik kalau bukak tudung kat rumah. bila Bibik buka tudung, Hafiy jerit-jerit marah Bibik suruh pakai tudung. Bibik ingat dia jerit biasa2 aje, tapi pegang2 tudung yang Bibik sangkut. bila Bibik pakai, baru diam. macam orang tua suruh-suruh pakai tudung"

bagus sungguh.

Abiy suka sebab nanti kalo Adik girl, Hafiy bole suruh Adik pakai tudung :)

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kalo lambat dapat apa2, siapla semua orang kena jerit. Mami lambat bagi nen or tersilap side pun, hehe. jerit jugak.


gamba hiasan: jangan potong rambut saya!!!!

tapi Hafiy tiba-tiba pandai joget. tapi lagu ringtone Mami yang satu ni je. lagu lain tak layan~



oh yah sekarang gigi Hafiy yang betul2 emerge, kat atas 2 batang, sangat besar, dan kat bawah satu. dalam masa seminggu tu naik gigi-giginya sebesar kapak. tu sedap menggeget Mami.

Ghilah

terdapat seseorang berkata bahawa tandem nursing (termasuk nursing semasa pregnant) adalah dilarang dalam Islam, sebab 'mengambil hak si adik'. dan beliau mendefinisikan ghilah sebagai tandem nursing. dan ada pula seseorang lain berkata, tandem nursing (termasuk nursing semasa pregnant) adalah dilarang juga kerana memberi mudarat kepada si abang. mungkin susu tiada khasiat & membahayakan nyawa si abang. dan kedua2 orang itu menyatakan usul tersebut datangnya dari hadis/sunnah Nabi.

hmm... Mami berpendapat, kalau bole bacalah sampai habis... dan jangan amik sekerat2 tanpa explanation. kita bukan hidup di zaman 'sami'na wa'ato'na'. zaman kini banyak hadis2 dhaif, hadis palsu, malah benda yg bukan hadis pun dikatakan hadis. jadi kalau boleh bacalah apa yang patut, dan pandai-pandailah membuat judgement, er.. bukan memandai. pandai-pandai ni ialah selepas baca, tanya, fikir, etc.

bila kita membaca apa-apa artikel, tak kiralah tentang hukum hakam atau perkara lain, pertama sekali kena 'kenal' penulisnya. ada penulis yang strict, ada yang lineant, ada yang prejudis, ada yang neutral, dan sebagainya. dalam hal ini pun, ada penulis yang pro-BF, dan ada yang tidak pro-BF.

dalam soal ghilah (intercourse with pregnant ladies or nursing moms), ia adalah sesuatu yg taboo dalam masyarakat Arab (dahulu kot, skg xpasti). pada masa itu, orang lelaki Arab bebas berpoligami, jadi mereka tidak kisah jika tidak bersama dengan isteri semasa isteri pregnant, dan bagi wanita Arab juga, mereka tidak mengamalkan intercourse semasa keadaan itu. manakala pengamal perubatan pada masa itu juga berpendapat bahawa menyusui semasa hamil akan memberi kesan buruk kepada anak yang disusui. kerana itu ia dinamakan 'pembunuhan secara rahsia' kerana ia dipercayai memberi keburukan kepada anak yang menyusu.

sehingga Rasulullah pun bermaksud untuk mengharamkan ghilah, namun setelah baginda melihat kaum2 yang kuat seperti Rom dan Parsi mengamalkan ghilah dan tandem nursing, maka baginda bersabda : "Sesungguhnya aku ingin melarang ghilah, tetapi kemudian aku melihat bangsa Persi dan bangsa Romawi melakukannya, namun tidak membahayakan anak-anak mereka sedikitpun" (HR Muslim)

menurut Ibnu Qayyim (ulama tafsir yang terkenal), larangan itu (mengandung/beranak semasa masih menyusui=tandem nursing) bertujuan agar anak yang disusui tidak mendapat kemudaratan, kerana mereka harus disusui selama sekurang-kurangnya 2 tahun. jika ibu itu hamil, maka akan banyak kemungkinan yang boleh menganggu penyusuan. samada dari segi biologi ibu, seperti contraction ataupun susu itu sendiri, kerana semasa 2nd trimester, kolostrum mula terbentuk dan susu menjadi tidak sedap.

akan tetapi, kedatangan Islam telah menghadkan poligami (poligami bebas dilakukan semasa Jahiliah) dan menyekat ghilah (intercourse semasa keadaaan2 tersebut) akan memudaratkan si suami. ye lah... mana boleh nak tahan sabar selama 2 tahun tak buat apa2. lalu, melihatkan keadaan kaum Rom dan Parsi yang tetap kuat sekalipun mengamalkan ghilah dan tandem nursing, Rasulullah tidak jadi menghalangnya.

jadi, ghilah adalah lebih kepada family planning, bukanlah larangan menyusu semasa hamil atau larangan tandem nursing. tiada disebut tentang mengambil hak adik dan sebagainya. pendekata, jika mahu meneruskan penyusuan selama 2 tahun atau lebih tanpa masalah, plan lah family anda betul2, sekiranya anda tidak yakin untuk tandem nurse.

alat contraception semuanya dibenarkan oleh Islam, (tiada istilah 'macam susuk' untuk implanon), kecuali vasectomi dan tubektomi, kerana ia dikira mengubah ciptaan Allah. Islam ini adalah agama yang preventif, bukan corrective. awal2 lagi sudah warning, kalau tidak mahu, kontrol lah. jangan, apa pun tak pakai tapi bila 'rasa' mengandung, mula rasa gelabah, kesian baby menyusulah dsb. :)

dan, harus tahulah membezakan antara budaya Islam dengan budaya Arab. tak sama tu... bagaimana mahu tahu? banyakkanlah membaca.. :)

kepada 'seseorang' yang tersebut, (jika anda terasa), bacalah artikel yang anda kirim itu sampai habis ye. saya baca sekali pun sudah faham maksud artikel tu :)

Nips Shield


i had very severe sorenips since 2 days ago. not sure whether it's because of pregnancy or because of Hafiy's little tooth (and buds). no matter why the reason is, it's so painful, not only during nursing, but all the time! everytime i lactate him, i would "ouch!", "ah, sakit!","aduss!" until Abiy said "kesian Mommy. patutlah banyak pahala ibu menyusu..." but i'm so proud of Abiy, cos he never offers "bagi susu tin je la Mommy.." (unless his question back then when knowing i'm pregnant "kene bagi susu tin ke?" before he knew about tandem nursing).

Abiy had no problem when i asked him to bring me to Bolevard to buy nipple shield. oh i really need something to cover this melecet2 thing. sangat sakit OK, like what you had during your first week nursing the little baby. i put Bepanthen on, but couldn't bear the pain. might not because of the melecet only, but the pregnancy-induced tender breast makes it so ache.

i bought a set from Anakku. no time to search or research for quality, etc. it's the first thing i found in the store.

at home, i washed and strelized the shield, and terus pakai! and the first thing i did was offering Hafiy. he looked at the shielded nips.. touched it with his little finger... and cried. i said "Hafiy, ini milk la. come come". he came, licked the shield, and continue crying.

i started to wonder, is the shield makes him cry? so i took the shield off. he immediately stop crying and plug himself on. oh my... maybe dia ingat "ape kat milk Mommy tu? kenapa ada plastik? Hafiy taknak plastik!" huhu.

so, tonight we'll try again. if he refuses to latch on with the shield attached on it, i have to bear the painlah. huhuhu... demi anakanda tercinta... pedih pun tak apa lah!

About Adik

walaupun Adik belum lahir lagi, tapi Mami suka2 hati je meletakkan takhta Mother of 2 utk diri sendiri. hehe.

memang betul lain pengalaman dengan babies, even if anak sendiri. zaman Hafiy dulu Mami tak boleh bangun, tak makan nasik, tak masuk dapur... selama 4 bulan. Adik pulak, Mami suka masak (tak suka pon kena masak jugak sebab xbole makan masakan Bibik). even if balik kerja jam 6.30pm (Maghrib dahtu), berohop jugak masak. masak plak Mami tak suka goreng2 simple je. kalo Bibik yg masak, mmg tak penah habis. kalo Mami masak sendiri, walaupun tak sedap mana, sampai ke kuah Mami hirup.

Abiy suka la macam ni. lagi2 bila dia offer "nak makan pizza?" Mami cakap "taknaklah. boring". hehe. zaman Hafiy dulu hari2 Abiy kena bawa Mami ke pondok pizza sebab itu je benda yg Mami bole telan. Abiy cakap Adik jimat, tambah2 di zaman ekonomi agak meleset ni :)

alhamdulillah sebab skg Mami bole makan, takde muntah2, so still manage to BF Hafiy. syukur sgt2. cuma sekarang Hafiy suka bangun main/jerit/nangis malam2. disturbed sleep ni buat Mami lagi fatigue & dah berapa kali Mami amik MC sebab tak larat sangat nak pegi kerja everytime Hafiy buat macam tu. orang kata perangai budak nak dapat adik. tak kisahlah semua tu, yg penting anak Mami sihat2 & maybe Hafiy nak Mami berehat :)

sekarang ni Mami cuma penat2 & semput especially malam2. last week Dr Aida dah buat blood test. dia suspect Mami kurang iron. tp dia xcall pun, maknanya bukan sebab iron kurang lah Mami ni. so we dont know why, tp mmg severe jugak. sampai Mami kene bangkit nak amik nafas. actually dah lama Mami hadapi benda ni, since schooling, tp sejak 2-3 minggu ni bertambah kronik. 2 minggu lg jumpe Dr. Aida lagi, harap2 ada la jawapannya. lagi2 kalo baring BF Hafiy, kdg2 xbole bernafas, Mami tepaksa stop dulu jap & bia Hafiy jerit2. Abiy kadang2 sian tgk Mami termengah2, dia tolong urutkan belakang Mami dengan balm. tak tau la apa masalahnya, xde blocked nose, xde kahak, xde batuk2, xde asma. orang kata pembawaan preggy, apa2 ajelah :)

Mami rasa kami kadang2 hadapi sindrom anak kedua. Abiy cakap kesian Adik, Mami asik cakap pasal Hafiy je, asik ingat Hafiy je. erm, maybe masih terlalu awal lagi. Adik pun baru je nak masuk 8 minggu. Hafiy pun tak faham lagi (kot) pasal adik la abang la ape la. ape2 pon semua anak adalah unik dan istimewa. Mami gabra jugak, rasa mcm pregnant 1st time je. cuma sebab MS tak begitu significant, so Mami bebas jalan2 ke sana ke mari tanpa was2 :D

ada satu hari tu Mami mimpi, (ni kes pegi visit baby Danial Haziq kot sampai termimpi2 sal baby) Mami masuk hospital, Adik dah nak lahir. tibe2 Mami tak sedar... sedar2 Adik dah ada & perut Mami ada stitch c-section. huhuhu. adik boy. Mami cakap kat Abiy pasal mimpi Mami, Abiy cakap "Adik gurl la..." :) best jugak kan kalo adik gurl, dapat sepasang. so far tak ada lagi kawan2 kami yg ada sepasang. lelaki-lelaki, perempuan-perempuan, memang ramai.

semoga Allah pelihara family kita, especially Adik yang sedang mekar setiap hari ni :) tapikan tak ramai kawan Mami yg expect Mami pregnant lagi, even if bila jumpe pun. maybe sebab terlalu awal, ataupun Mami makin kurus. huhu. almost everyone bagi remark ni "Along makin kurus lar!"

doakan Adik selamat dalam rahim Mami, dan selamat lahir menjelang 27 Februari tahun depan. ameen.

rezeki Adik, Mami dapat satu offer yang sungguh seronok! alhamdulillah...

Mamma....



MAMMAlia - group of animals (including human) which is 'designed' to nurse their young.
MAMMAry gland - breastmilk 'factory'.
MAMMA - Latin word for breast.

does it proved that ALL MAMMA CAN BREASTFEED?


let's support Breastfeeding Week 2008! (August 1st)

Travelling Alone

i was a tough decision, whether to bring Hafiy along or not. actually, the plan was, bringing him along and send him to a Daycare at Jalan Damai while i go to my meeting and training. i even called the owner, and planned to sew a carrier like Mei Tai or something like that for the purpose of carrying him (since he doesn't like to be in his stroller).

however, i changed my mind when thinking about my condition. i even have to ask Abiy to hold Hafiy when we go out shopping, and how to handle this baby myself? while fatigue is my accompany most of the time. so, i decided to travel alone. ops, it's alone actually, i'm with Adek! (is this called second child syndrome? :P)

i was so cold to be alone in the plane...

i stay at Traders Hotel, next to KL Convention Centre, cos my meeting was held just in front of Convec (shortform i used for KL Convention Centre). oh this hotel's so superb OK! tonite we (Aunty Donia & i) planned to go to the rooftop (i forget the name) to see the view of KLCC :D

first time without Hafiy is miserable. number 1, i miss him LOTS and LOTS! (Adek merajuk~) and number 2, i'm not used to pump at night. and Hafiy is a frequent night feeder. now i have to bear my B engorge when waking up in the morning.

the first thing i did was, call the hotel's service centre, telling that i have to store my ebm in their freezer since the room's fridge is not that cold. they were very OK with that, in fact the officer offered to keep my ebm in a freezer they store ice-cream. they came to pick the milk up, very convenience. and everytime i need them to collect the milk, i just call the service centre.

this time, i fail to pump as frequent as possible. coming to KL alone, is the best time to spend time with my friends. even last nite i didn't sleep in the hotel room, but at my friends' place. for the whole afternoon til evening, we were on the road,and i utilized the time by pumping in the car. glad that it motivated my newly wed friends to breastfeed :)

during the workshop, it was very tight. no break unless for lunch. so i escape when i felt the engorgement was unbearable. it was more important that attending my ears while my mind wondering around thinking about the engorgement. (it's not a blossom engorgement like what i had back then, anyway). luckily my ex-mentor had his office vacant (he's going out), so i used the office to pump. what a lucky~

to transport them back to Miri, i use a small ice box, and will put ice in it (now have to think where should i get the ice). i'm sure it can be put in cargo, cos my friends did it before.

Abiy recommend to pump and dump, so that i dont have to transport anything (i knew he thought about how i'm going to bring all those things, those must be very heavy for this preggy lady). but i'm thinking about providing fresh ebm to my son... which is lot better than frozen one, since the lama, frozen ebm has deplete the antibody content.

i dont know why i feel so good when coming back to Peninsular. no fatigue.. i even can walk non-stop from Convec to KLCC wiht my backpack, go from levels to levels, shops to shops, take LRT to Terminal Putra, get awake until midnite... oh gosh, i even can't sit properly at our own Miri! last time with Hafiy also, i couldn't eat for 4++ month, but when came back to Peninsular, the least plate i took was 3! :)

Gondol


before

Mommy said my hair was so stinky. and she hated how i scratched my head, like so gatal2. so she & Abiy brought me to Kedai Gunting Mesra at Lutong to has it cut.

there goes my 'beautiful hair'. oh it was a miserable moment i tell you. i cried all the way. cannot tahan to see my hair washed away! Mommy will upload the pics during my hair-cutting. they're in her camera, which had been packed in her luggage bag, cos she's going to KL tonight. without me!

my pictures after...


Bibik said i look like crook.


where's the mole came from? oh it was the dragon fruit's biji2.

Mommy said i look more handsome an cute some more. she discovered lots of ruam panas on my head. no wonder i always garu-garu.

for babies who have heavy head-sweated like me, gondol is better!

Bukan Salah

hmmm.... ntah cemana nk cakap. bukan salah bagi anak FM. & mmg xsalah pun. FM mmg dicipta utk baby.. lainlah kalo kasik Susu Cap Teko.

yang salahnya...kalo niat nak BF, tapi tak betul2.. tak belajar betul2, tak plan betul2, bila fail, tensen2 plak & ala2 tak puas hati dgn orang yg berjaya BF. ya.. ada yg mmg dah niat, dah doa, dah belajar, dah usaha tp tak berjaya... mungkin tu rezeki kat tempat lain utk dia. yela... tak semua orang atas dunia ni berjaya pun. mmg dah sunnatullah macam tu. kita merancang, usaha tp ketentuan di tangan Allah jua.

kalo nak BF, belajarlah.... pastu jgnla kuarkan statement yg buat orang BF 'naik angin' seperti:-

1."i nk BF tp tak berjaya sbb lepas bersalin susu tak kuar"
helo.... mana belajar ni? lepas bersalin mmglar susu tak kuar... ada penah dgr perkataan kolostrum tak? ape igt mcm air paip ke kuar mencurah2.

2. "i nak BF tapi tak berjaya. 3 hari susu takde. tepaksa bagi botol. lepas tu baby taknak nenen dah"
ni lagi sorang. kalo dalam masa 3 hari ada susu tu mmg bertuah lagi magiklah. most mothers amik masa 4-6 hari utk breast engorge & membentuk susu.

3. "susu i kurang, sampai terpaksa pam bagi kat baby. skg dah makin sikit"
tahukah anda bahwa penghasilan susu itu base on stimulation & hisapan baby tu kuatnya tak terbanding dari pam?

4. "i nak BF tp tak berjaya sebab B kecik, susu tak banyak"
tu la orang suh belajar takmau... kan dah merapu benda bukan2.

5. "i nak BF tp tak konfiden sebab my sis susu dah kering (sis dia kasik FM dr umur baby 2 hari)"
tolongla belajar pasal rule of BF... isk3x~ sedih sungguh hati ini.

6. "i pelik kenapa u ols still bole BF lagi. susu i dh stat kering (i FM sejak dlm hari lagi)"
no komenlah.

7. "i nak BF tp xberjaya. baby mcm xpuas je. asik nangis2 je"
dah check latching baby? dah consult LC? dah baca buku/tanye paed pasal behavior newborn?

8. "i nak BF tapi tak berjaya. dari dalam pantang lagi susu sikit. i pam kuar sikit je"
dah dalam pantang duk direct feeding mana nak kuar susu pamnya cik kak.... dalam perut baby tu ada silinder bole nampak ke baper oz dia minum?

9. "you fully BF kan? you kasik baby FM apa ek?"
dah nama BF, nak FM kebende pulak ni. tau ke tak ni makna BF? huhu.

10. "i nak BF tapi tak berjaya. baby asik nak melekap je macam tak kenyang2. B pun tak sempat bengkak"
bagus lah tu... makin lama baby melekap, makin banyakla susu stimulated... baby tak pengsan kebuluran tu OK la dia dpt susu lah tu...

11. "i nak BF tp tak berjaya. B belah kanan i kurang susu lah. kan nasi yang belah kanan tu. i takut baby lapar.."
oh ya kat situ mmg keluar nasik seketul2. hmmm.. orang kata skg ni dunia di hujung jari.. sambil2 surf benda merapu tu, apa salahnya cari la sikit2 info pasal penyusuan ni.

& yg agak kelakar...

12. "i nak BF tp tak berjaya sebab i kerja. cemana nak BF baby masa kat ofis?"
pandai sangatlaaaahhhh. yg dok cakap dgn hang ni igt tak kerja ka?

cukuplah tu. pendek kata... kalo nk BF, belajar la dulu. ini, konsep supply-demand pun tak paham, cemana nak BF? bukanlah kata mak-mak BF ni pandai sangat, tapi macam itu lah... at least mereka ni tahu hakikat BF tu macamana, susu terhasil macamana.. etc.

Mami, tak penah anggap BF ni senang. sebab kawan2 Mami pun ramai yg fail. kalau senang, mestila SEMUA orang pun BF.

eh, Mami tak kisah pon sebenarnya, ibu2 kat luar sana tu nak BF ke, BS ke, BO ke. tp sebagai warga yg perihatin, rasa sedih jugakla sekali sekala mendengar statement2 macam di atas. kalo yg cakap tu makcik2 kampung yg tak sekolah, tak kisahlah... tp mak2 yg terpelajar & berinternet ni... ada masa terluang tu carila info pasal BF (kalo betul2 nak BF lah). kat internet ni belambak ha... google jer... jgn duk ralit download muvi jer... baca2 la ape yg patut psl BF, parenting, babycare... takde la nanti wat statement bukan2.

bukan ape, kadang2 statement camtu dilempar kat tempat high traffic, macam blog, forum, etc. kesian kat orang2 yg baru nk belajar BF, tak pasal2 terperoleh ilmu sesat. ye la.. orang pun macma kita jugak. kalau kita 'malas' nak surf pasal benda2 macam ni, sama la jugak 20 juta rakyat Malaysia lagi. jadi kalau tak tahu/tak pasti/takde ilmu tu tolonglah jangan memandai bagi statement. memanglah itu pengalaman anda... tapi itu benda yang tak betul. benda2 tu adalah benda biasa dalam BFing.

mmg Mami tahu ramai ibu2 kat luar sana yang takde awareness, takde ilmu, etc. pasal BF, & bukan Mami nak menyombong atau membangga, etc. cuma macam tu lah... ibu2 yang baru nak kenal BF, diharapnya belajarlah betul-betul. yang penting, tahu konsep BF tu macamana. kenapa orang BF sangat tidak 'allow' FM? bukan sebab depa benci FM, tapi once dah rely kat FM, body pun dah tak terima signal sebab dah diganti dgn FM. lama2 susu pun kurang dengan sendiri.

itulah antara sebab kenapa ibu2 BF sangat5x berkata TIDAK kepada FM. tapi mereka tak ada pulak cakap kat mak2 FM supaya stop FM & cube jugak BF. cuma kepada mak2 BF, mmg ditekankan supaya teruskan BF, jgn sesekali pikirkan FM! (kecuali dalam kes2 tertentu lar... jgn pulak sampai bagi anak jus oren sebab takmau kasik FM). mak2 BF mungkin nampak SOMBONG, BONGKAK, BERLAGAK, etc. sebab merendah2kan martabat FM. memang itu rules dalam kehidupan seorang BF mom. mana bole ada FM! (kecuali sebagai spare utk kes2 terpencil).

ada banyak jenis manusia kat dunia... ada yg tak kawin2, ada yg kawin tak dapat pregnant, ada yang dapat pregnant tp anak tiada, ada yg ada anak tapi sakit/cacat... sekurang2nya anak kita sihat... tak kirelah BF ke FM ke susu cap teko ke... bersyukurlah dengan kurniaan Allah kat kita. ibu BF, syukur dapat BF, ibu FM, syukur mampu beli FM untuk anak. mana2 pun semuanya ketentuan-Nya. kita tinggal bab mengusahakan je. kalau dah usaha, doa, jumpa doktor, consult LC, urut sana sini, makan itu ini, telan pil hormon tp tak ada susu jugak, mungkin dah takdir.. mungkin ada masalah dgn milk duct, or tak ada milk duct. tak pelikpun, ada je wanita yang lahir tanpa rahim. cemana pun, usaha+doa itu nombor 1. kalau usaha sekerat jalan, doa pun tak berapa sungguh2, paham2 sendirilah.

kalau tak berjaya BF & bukan sebab2 fisio (takde kelenjar susu, takde hormon prolatin, etc.), nanti giatkan belajar lagi, usaha lagi utk next babies. & kalau memang dah sah ada masalah fisiologi tu, redha lah nak buat macamana. mungkin Allah sediakan kelebihan kat tempat lain dengan tiadanya nikmat menyusukan anak.

yang penting kita janganlah rasa rendah diri tak tentu pasal. tak kira la BF ke, tak berjaya BF ke, FM ke, susu cap teko ke... itu yang kita mampu buat untuk anak kita... kalau kita bawak kancil & jiran kita bawak BMW, ape kes nak marah2 kat dia sebab borak2 pasal BMW dia hari2. takkan nak suruh dia borak pasal kancil kita pulak. patutnya kita bangga sal jiran kita ada BMW. koman2 bolela kita tengok BMW hari2. huhu.

kalau tak ada ilmu, cari ilmu. kalau dah ada, prektikkan. kalau dah pandai, sebarkan pada orang lain pulak.

FM pun macam tu jugakla. FM tak sama semua kan... ada yg free lactose la, soy-besed la, ape ke bende lagi. bole ajar mak2 FM yang lain. jadi tak payahlah rasa rendah diri tak tentu pasal... FM lagi best ape... ada stage2 utk umur tertentu. tiap2 stage tukar susu, kalo BF, benda yang sama je... kalau 3 tahun menyusu, 3 tahun benda tuuu aje. adik2 dia pun sama duk pakai benda second hand :P

lagipun mak2 BF tak ada pon (at least myself) yg sound kat mak2 FM "you ni teruklah kasik baby FM!". paling takpun yg dpt sound macam tu ialah mak2 yg konon2 nak BF, tapi tibe2 kasik FM plak. itu bukan sebab anti-FM, tp a kind of motivation utk mak2 ni. nak BF, BF la betul2. kalo dah FM tu bkn exclusive/full BF dahla namanya.

pendekata, berbanggalah dengan diri kita. & kalo nk exclusive/full BF, TOLONGLAAA BELAJAR! google jer.... kalo tak jumpa sesapa yang bole tunjuk ajarkan. kat www tu siap ada gambar lagi tunjuk cemana nak BF. stopla bagi statement2 macam di atas. aduhhh, tak dapat terima tau!

BF dgn FM ni... benda yg sama (feeding babies) tp tak serupa. macam Petronas dgn Shell la. sama2 kompeni oil&gas, tapi.. Petronas gaji kecik, Shell gaji besar. Petronas benefit mcm ni, Shell benefit macam tu. Petronas kompeni baru, Shell dah lama otai. Petronas kene boikot, kutuk, caci, maki, hina, keji, dsb. oleh rakyat Malaysia yang lebih bijak dari CEO Petronas tapi tak layak keje Petronas pun sebab tak berapa pandai sangat, Shell tak kena apa2 padahal depa pun duk korek minyak kat Malaysia jugak, jual petrol rega sama jugak. ada orang nak keje Shell tp tak dapat, end up kat Petronas. ada orang nak keje Petronas tapi end up kat Shell. ape2 pon orang Petronas tetap keje kat situ, orang Shell pun seronok keje kat situ. jadi, bangga dan bersyukurlah dengan apa yang kita perolehi. ganjaran dari Allah tu lebih besar utk orang2 berfikir, zikir dan sabar.

Susah Payah BF

ok lah... selama ni maybe kita duk asik cakap pasal benda best je BF ni. mehla sesekali kita ckp pasal benda tak best pulak.

masa pregnant:
-pandai2 cari source of info yg betul. banyak info mulut yg ckp "ada susu, bole la BF"
-hari2 doa mtk dibolehkan BF. hari2 baca cara2 nk BF. hari2 cari poblem yg leh wat org xleh BF.
-belajar psl BF mcm org xbetul.

masa dalam pantang:
-tahan telinga orang suh kasik FM itu ini.
-tabahkan hati bila baby nangis2. sentiasa katakan pada diri, susu ada, susu ada, insya-Allah.
-bile baby sakit, kuning ke, kembung ke, tahan telinga bila org salahkan susu kita. pelan2 cube cari solution, stop makan itu ini, etc.
-offer baby menyusu, kerap2 utk stimulate susu.

masa keja:
-kene jugak cari masa nak pam, walaupun kejap.
-tensen keje pun kene wat rilek2 sbb taknak susu drop.
-tak bole makan bukan2 kot anak angin ke, gatal2 ke, etc.
-pam dapat 1-2 oz tp kene gak sabar & cari solution nak increase supply.
-kene bahagikan masa dgn betul2, meeting ke, kuar ofis ke, pam kene jugak jalan.
-kene cari tempat sesuai nak pam.
-angkut beg susu ke sana sini.
-penat malam2 kene jugak pastikan 6 kali direct feeding tuk terus stimulate susu.

dgn anak:
-sabar jela bila anak tarik2 nen.
-sabar jela bila anak baru tumbuh gigi, gigit2 nen sampai berdarah.
-sabar jela bila anak menyusu dgn cara dia yg kadang2 menyakitkan.
-sabar jela bila tido malam sakit2 badan sbb nk positionkan anak menyusu.
-sabar jela bila anak claim susu di merata tempat.
-sabar jela bila anak nk nyonyot2 je pas blk keje sampai nk minum air pn xleh.

kalo keje jenis travel:
-kene angkut beg susu & pam pegi mana2.
-kene usaha cukupkan bekalan utk anak sepanjang travel (kalo anak tak ikut).
-kene cari tempat nk letak anak (kalo anak ikut).
-kene usaha cari tempat nk pam kat tempat asing tu.
-kene piki cemana nk simpan EBM kalo duk hotel. yela, peti hotel kan kecik je.
-kene cari jalan cemana nak transport EBM blk umah. ye la.. dah nama travel tu bknnye pejalanan 20minit. kene plak kene naik flight 2-3 kali..
-kene deal dgn airport/airway company kalo travel international. tak semua aiport/airway company overseas benarkan bawak EBM (liquid, etc.).
-kene tabahkan hati nk angkut baby lagi, barang lagi (kalo anak ikut).

on nanny:
-kene cari yg pandai handle EBM.
-kene cari yg xkisah dgn budak BF.
-kene cari yg tak pandai2 tuka puting ikut suka hati dia.

on supply:
-kalo susu drop mmg haru. lagi2 kalo xde back up. mau meroyan sehari dua.
-makan xbole sebarang, rest kene cukup.
-bile orang ni ckp dia bole pam 8oz sekali, kita 2oz je, tension tak? walaupun sbenarnya yg kita pam tu mencukupi utk baby tp tension sbb xmampu buat stok sebanyak orang tu. tp nak marah sape? pandai2la kalo sekali pam dpt 2oz, pam la banyak2 kali!!!

on food:
-kene balance diet.
-air kene minum banyak.
-amik supplement utk pastikan susu tinggi kualiti.
-xleh suka2 hati makan sebarang2 i.e. fud yg angin, etc.

on kesihatan:
-kene pastikan sentiasa sihat supaya supply tidak terjejas.
-jaga makan minum, jgn sampai kene food poisoning, nt dehydration xde susu pulak.
-pendekata kene fit selalu lah.

on rajin-malas:
-hari2 kene prepare pumping gear g keje. tak boleh malas!
-hari2 kene pam kat ofis. tak boleh malas!
-hari2 kene offer direct feeding sebanyak mungkin kat baby. tak boleh malas!
-hari2 kene makan supplement. tak boleh malas!
-hari2 kene makan nasik. tak boleh malas!
-hari2 kene rajin jawab bila orang tanye nakgi mana dgn beg2 susu. tak boleh malas! (nt org igt kita nk curi tulang plak).

banyak lagilah. ibu2 BF mungkin bole tambahlah. lain orang lain pengalaman kan.

jadi, rasanya berbaloilah kalo Mami 'malas' nak bancuh FM pun :)

BM vs FM

Mami bukan anti-FM. Mami tak kasik FM sebab susu Mami masih bole menampung keperluan anak Mami. & Mami xmo bergantung pada FM, (+malas OK nak bancuh2 FM).


however, to me... (utk baby under 1YO) kalo memang mmg susu tak dek... usaha2 pun tak jalan & takde orang nak jadi ibu susuan, FM is the best optionlah. orang dulu2 kasik anak minum sirap, teh, kopi, sebab 'susu tak ada' & tak ada duit nak beli FM. orang sekarang (ada) bagi anak minuman pelik2 sebab taknak beri FM pada anak.

buat masa ni, alhamdulillah & insya-Allah syusyu Mami masih berjalan & kalo dia taknak jalan pun, Mami akan cari jalan lah, cari mana2 ibu yg sanggup nak menyusukan Hafiy. tak payahla Hafiy minum air masak/air sirap as substitute BM. BM bukan minuman macam air kopi, teh, dsb. ia adalah makanan lengkap utk si manja. tak kirelah orang kata bila dah lebih 6 bulan khasiat dah kurang.. whateverlah. tp air kopi, teh, sirap, oren segala tu bukanlah gantian utk BM buat Hafiy.

pelik..pelik... otai2 BF memang takkan 'restu' bagi FM pada anak, tapi bukannya suruh kasik minuman lain, especially utk baby bawah setahun. adekah kita sebagai mak ni, nak BF utk kebaikan anak, atau takmau kasik FM sebab 'ego' kita sebagai mak?

hmm terpulang lah pada masing2. orang kata 'hanya mak je tau yg terbaik utk anak dia' kan. hehe. tapi mak yg terbaik ialah mak yg berilmu jugak tau (-ilmu, bukannya masuk U ada phD. ilmu keibubapaan, samada dari instinct, pembelajaran, pengalaman, etc.).

kalo susu badan kurang, pandai2lah cari susu lain utk gantikan susu badan. or else usahala macamana pon utk tambahkan susu kalo xmo kasik susu lain. sian baby, jgn sebab ego mak xmo introduce FM, baby xdapat khasiat susu pulak. FM tak bersalah!!! tak haram pun FM tuu~~~


lelong! lelong! budak utk disusukan!
HAHAHAHAHAHA

Tag Tag Tag

tag mama Jua kena pospon dululah sbb Auntie Iena remind Mami dlu :P (alang2 malas ngapdet nih).

Nama-nama timangan anda: Along/Alom (family & kengkawan), Mek Na (kengkawan Naim), Lyna/Lina (kengkawan blog&Chen), Siti (ofis), Datuk S (Mr Khoo), Alin (in laws).

Anda seorang yang: miskin. hahahaha. ntahla.. OK la kot.. bole la dibuat member.. xberkira...

Insan Teristimewa ?? Describe kan Dia Terlalu Istimewa Dimata Anda: Abiy. tanpa Abiy siapalah Hafiy dan adik(-adik). :D Abiy sumber intelektualku huhu...

Lagu kesukaan anda: ikut mood.

Makanan kesukaan anda: sesungguhnya masakan negeriku, Kelantan!

Warna Kesukaan Anda: biru

Sikap Yang Membuat Anda Stress: kalo ye pon st*p*d, tolongla jgn menunjukkan kest*p*dan anda itu di khalayak ramai. simpan sendiri sudahla~ kan bagus kalo rakyat Malaysia ni bijak2 belaka...

Tiga benda yang mesti ada dalam beg anda: wallet, henpon.. tu je. huh.

Kali terakhir masa anda menangis kenapa: lepas babab Hafiy yg xmo tido, Mami tak pack lagi nakgi KL. sedih sungguh sebab membabab anak dalam keadaan geram.

I Am 9 Month Old!



how fast time flies... now Hafiy is 9 month old. and at this age, he's a big brother to be :D

he is a great explorer now, but Mommy usually restricts his movement cos i'm not that fit to chase over him (not good). usually he likes to go to the kitchen. nak belajar masak ke? and his other favourite spot is the TV cabinet & under my PC table, main kabel2 (oh bahaya!). now that he can open the TV cabinet doors, play with astrok decoder & sepahkan CDs.



at 9 month,...

1. Mommy & Abiy stop buying new toys. actually, we don't buy it regularly, just once a while when we go back to KL. but this time, i think we better stop for the 'changing lifestyle' and let him learn to appreciate what he has, rather than keep on asking new things to play with.


2. Mommy had a very bad mom days. this fatigue body asked me to sleep all nights (answer for the long silence) and let him watchs TV. oh thanks God he likes to watch talkshows. believe me he'll bising2 suruh tuka channel if there's other show like cartoon, nyanyi2, drama, etc. at least he sees people talking than acting stupid on TV :P (could be good for his language development. hahaha - good excuse).

3. Hafiy had his JE (Japanese Enchapalytis) jab, a compulsory for Sarawak babies. malam Hafiy kena jab, Abiy demam tiba2. hehe.

4. a tong sampah. Mommy don't have to think of 'what should i cook for him?'. i just bake plain food like potatoes & he eats 'em very rakus sekali. i hope he won't be a picky eater. he's on BF diet (he takes only 2-10% solids daily) so i'm not worry about his vitamins deficiency etc. (some ppl might not agree with this :D).

5. makin diam except when he cries. susah sangat nak dengar suara. kalau gelak pun mulut je ternganga2.

6. prefers guy adult than lady adult. but for kids, he likes gurls with long hair. mesti nak kiss2. but girls with short hair/botak, & boy, sorry la. don't touch me OK. i dont like!

i don't care what other babies can do at this age. my baby is unique and he has his own pace. he deserve an award! i think we should not remark our baby as 'biasa saja.. mcm budak2 lain' in front of him (unless when we talk to others for not being 'brag'). he's now better than what he was months ago! we should praise him and don't say "kenapa baby tak bole buat ni lagi? baby X tu dah bole tau!"

i'm not worry about his experience-expectant development, like when he will walk, talk, etc. but my concern is on his experience-dependent, where i think our roles as parents is big. for example his hobby development, good manners, etc. if we fail to show him good thing for him to copy, who will? most important thing is, avoid him to experience negative things those will make him develop negative thinking, & negative behavior toward others.

so how? one of the many ways is to enrich our home. raising these children up in enrichment environment will help them to develop more cortical and neurons connection, thus will help them to grow up 'brighter' (bright to us is able to see world in different aspects & able to gain benefit from it). what is enrichment environment? it's where love is all around...

On Daily Trip - Being Preggy is Not A Limit

it has been a week with no new entry from Mommy.

it was a long, busy week. meddlesome office jobs, and dealing with early pregnancy fatigue, i need more sleep!

when i decided to make a daytrip to KL on 4th July, it was somehow brought up debates, among my friends and even Abiy. Abiy suggested to sleep over, but i said, it makes no difference if i sleep over, or come back and sleep at home. if it is at the middle of the week, yes i might sleep over, but since it is Friday, then i have long hours to rest, on my own bed.

it has been a popular taboo since ever, about normal activities a preggy lady shouldn't do. one of it was flying during pregnancy. i've been to many discussion forums, and the most popular question was "can i fly while pregnant?". the answer is, definitely YES.

actually there were some studies done to justify whether a preggy lady is safe travelling via air or not. and the result was, during 1st trimester, most of the subjects went to miscarriage, due to:-
- on air travel
- radiation

however, it wasn't caused by the air travel alone, but the subjects (the flight attendances) are those who works for many hours, and taking long hours flight.

by right, travelling by air during pregnancy is perfectly safe. however, 2nd trimester is the best time, since it is a honeymoon period for most moms-to-be, and there's no risk for miscarriage or preterm labour. somehow, other than dealing with risks to miscarriage and preterm labor, it's also about comfortability. during 1st trimester, usually associate with morning sickness, so it's not advisable for a MTB to travel. and on discomfort during late pregnancy, a MTB should stay on the ground.

my flight was at 0620hrs to KL and 2040hrs back to Miri.

since it was a daytrip, i just brought my backpack and my f2go. the 2.5hours flight was a tiring. oh, even 30mins flight is tiring due to the ungrounded ion our body receives. how to reduce this? i touch the plane's body as i get our of it, before go into the terminal.

i pump 3 times, 2 times at KLCC (thanks to Aunty Zu) and another one at KLIA nursing room. oh sungguh tak selesa sebab mamat2 Bangla keluar masuk the room. i dunno what's on earth they were doing in the room. but since they didn't disturb me, so i just ignore je la.

the do's to travel during pregnancy:
1. consult with the gynae - to ensure you fly with no risk
2. ask for front seat - easy to get in and out
3. get enough rest - before, during & after
4. bring your own food for morning sickness

the dont's:
1. fly on long hours - you might extremely tired
2. high altitude, non pressurised flight - the pressure may cause the oxygen supply to your body, and your baby

additional infos:
1. airport security x-ray scanner is safe
2. EBM (liquid or frozen) is a CAN for domestic flight

tips for a daytrip MTB:
1. manage the time wisely so you won't be in hurry
2. choose good transportation to take you to the airport so that you can rest
3. make sure you'll have time to rest after the flight
4. bring 'mini 1st aid' like balm, minyak panas along
5. keep a pack of cracker & a bottle of water in your bag
6. free yourself from worry

you should not worry too much about your body and baby during pregnancy. a study from a baby charity shows that 90% of preggy moms who let themselves worry too much cause their pregnancy to be affected. being pregnant doesn't require you to stay at home and stop all activities (unless you're dealing with pregnancy discomfort, risk, or advised by your gynae).

don't take pregnancy as a limit. it's a joyful moment!