i have a friend, who was really keen to breastfeed. but now she fails, a total fail. and she's kinda 'why you still can breastfeed your baby and i can't?' toward me. [not to say that i'm successful but at least my son is still on my breastmilk, exclusively]. - (this is excluding those who want to breastfeed but fail because of physical condition or whatever)
i'd like to list down her mistakes those driving to the failure:-
1. she thought breastfeeding is simple.
- might be like.. a fully automated thing, everymom can breastfeed as long as she has a baby.
- gosh from the beginning i know breastfeeding is never be simple. if it is, why the FM is belambak2 in the market? if it's that simple, everybody should be able to breastfeed.
2. refuses to learn.
- because she thinks it's simple, so she didn't want to learn. even i was named 'idiot' when asking too much about breastfeeding.
- & i'm still learning until now.
3. minimal knowledge.
- because of those 2 reasons, she has minimal knowledge without her awareness.
- she thought she was very smart.
4. and the BIGGEST MISTAKE is - top up with formula milk (FM) because - "MY BABY DRINKS MY MILK TOO MUCH & EVEN IF I HAVE PLENTY, IT STILL CAN'T SATISFY HER/HIM".
- i told her that she shouldn't do that, but she said the baby sucked her all the time, and she couldn't provide much to make he baby contented.
- i take myself out of this ideology, please. even if my body doesn't produce much milk, but i believe that it won't let my son hungry, and it won't let me rely on other sources than my own breastmilk.
5. still hoping that the breastmilk is there despite the FM.
- once you rely on FM, and the baby relies on FM, then your breasts get not enough stimulation, the milk would probably gone.
- because of the minimal knowledge, she doesn't know about this, and she thinks she can stop the FM but how to stop if the FM now become the main food while the BM is start to decrease and decrease.
6. don't know how to stimulate breastmilk
- when the milk is running out, she becomes 'heran' how could it be. she doesn't know what makes her BM is there, it is the baby! when she gives her baby FM, the stimulation is insufficient thus reducing the supply.
- she's hardly pumping her milk because of the busy working days. so the body gets no signal of milk demand. no demand, no supply.
7. and the core reason of everything is being ignorance.
i'm not a breastfeeding guru or whateva, but i would like to share my little experience and knowledge with all my friends. up to this point, i'd face so many, ups and downs in breastfeeding my son. sometimes i feel i'm smart enough and some other time a total idiot. but howeva, maternal instinct and common sense is very important in breastfeeding and caring of the baby. because our babies are unique.
i like to see moms breastfeeding their babies, as the babies will become our future. but i still respect moms who choose to formula-feed but a mom who wants to breastfeed but fail because of ignorance (& refuse to learn) is a tragedy.
yes parenting, babycaring, etc. are common senses but there are things we have to learn.
i'd like to list down her mistakes those driving to the failure:-
1. she thought breastfeeding is simple.
- might be like.. a fully automated thing, everymom can breastfeed as long as she has a baby.
- gosh from the beginning i know breastfeeding is never be simple. if it is, why the FM is belambak2 in the market? if it's that simple, everybody should be able to breastfeed.
2. refuses to learn.
- because she thinks it's simple, so she didn't want to learn. even i was named 'idiot' when asking too much about breastfeeding.
- & i'm still learning until now.
3. minimal knowledge.
- because of those 2 reasons, she has minimal knowledge without her awareness.
- she thought she was very smart.
4. and the BIGGEST MISTAKE is - top up with formula milk (FM) because - "MY BABY DRINKS MY MILK TOO MUCH & EVEN IF I HAVE PLENTY, IT STILL CAN'T SATISFY HER/HIM".
- i told her that she shouldn't do that, but she said the baby sucked her all the time, and she couldn't provide much to make he baby contented.
- i take myself out of this ideology, please. even if my body doesn't produce much milk, but i believe that it won't let my son hungry, and it won't let me rely on other sources than my own breastmilk.
5. still hoping that the breastmilk is there despite the FM.
- once you rely on FM, and the baby relies on FM, then your breasts get not enough stimulation, the milk would probably gone.
- because of the minimal knowledge, she doesn't know about this, and she thinks she can stop the FM but how to stop if the FM now become the main food while the BM is start to decrease and decrease.
6. don't know how to stimulate breastmilk
- when the milk is running out, she becomes 'heran' how could it be. she doesn't know what makes her BM is there, it is the baby! when she gives her baby FM, the stimulation is insufficient thus reducing the supply.
- she's hardly pumping her milk because of the busy working days. so the body gets no signal of milk demand. no demand, no supply.
7. and the core reason of everything is being ignorance.
i'm not a breastfeeding guru or whateva, but i would like to share my little experience and knowledge with all my friends. up to this point, i'd face so many, ups and downs in breastfeeding my son. sometimes i feel i'm smart enough and some other time a total idiot. but howeva, maternal instinct and common sense is very important in breastfeeding and caring of the baby. because our babies are unique.
i like to see moms breastfeeding their babies, as the babies will become our future. but i still respect moms who choose to formula-feed but a mom who wants to breastfeed but fail because of ignorance (& refuse to learn) is a tragedy.
yes parenting, babycaring, etc. are common senses but there are things we have to learn.
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